1. We haven't made a decision.

Elder Merrill C. Oaks, formerly of the Seventy, tells of an experience he had while serving as a bishop. A young woman in his ward was praying to know if she should marry the young man she was dating, but she didn't feel she had received an answer.

Elder Oaks urged her to continue praying, but he also counseled her to decide for herself. "I told her she was expecting the Lord to make the decision for her," he said, "but He won't do that. Even a decision as important as marriage requires us to exercise our own agency. …

"I told her she must exercise her own agency by studying it out in her mind, making a tentative decision, and then asking the Lord for a confirmation of her decision."

She eventually got her answer, explaining, "I just began to feel [more and more positive], and I knew that my prayers were being answered" ("How to Get an Answer," New Era, Aug. 2001, 47).

You can't always expect the Lord to reveal things to you if you haven't studied it out in your own mind. It's your job to work through the question, come to a conclusion, and then ask Him if He agrees with you.